Caleb Fowler

The night I learned that Caleb was going to be a boy, I was with 2 of my best friends at the Atlantic Sea Grill here in Tulsa.  Afterwards, while we were dancing around and hanging out together, just us 3 girls, outside the restaurant on a beautiful eve, I came up with the name Caleb Abraham.  I would call him “Caleb Abe”. I loved it. It helped me to accept the fact and even get excited about another boy coming into the Fowler family. He was my 4th boy out of 5 kids.

David did not care for it, because he thought Abraham was too old-fashioned and patriarchal.  So, 15 years ago, we welcomed Christopher Caleb into the world.  He would be called Caleb – that much we knew. Well, guess what? CalebAbe stuck for me and I have called him that his whole life.

Last week, when the whole family was swimming together, he admitted that he preferred Caleb Abraham. We all agreed it fits him better. He is a very strong person and will be quite the patriarch, if time allows. We are going to change his name legally, as soon as we are able.

Caleb is one of those extremely strong, choleric personalities.  We laugh at remembering when he was barely 5 years old, his oldest brother Josh said to him, “Caleb, you would rule the world if you could, wouldn’t you?”  Caleb responded with “what do you mean?” and Josh explained “tell everybody what to do.”  Caleb, so knowingly responded and said “yes, of course, except Dad, he knows what he is doing.”

Caleb has never been one to “second guess” anything he decides.  A very independent thinker, he knows his own mind and heart.  He is a self-taught man. He decided a several years ago, to pick up piano.  He sat down and began to play.  Beethoven’s “Fur Elise” was his first number – done perfectly and beautiful. Every time he ever sits down to play, it moves my soul. He has never played any basic chopsticks or had any piano lessons – just amazing since day one. I kid you not!

He has done the same thing with computers and keeps all of ours up and running.  I do not know how he knows everything as he does – blows my little (untechy) brain.  I am sure many of your households have one of these types also.  They are a trip to a parent, eh?  I can’t figure out where he came from.  đź™‚

He also has a video production company of his own called Aesthetic Creations.( ).  He is an amazing photographer, videographer, director, and video editor. In fact, he has already been invited by friends of ours who live in Botswana, Africa to come and stay with them for a year and attend their school and produce videos for them, maybe even a documentary. They have a Cambridge University affiliated K-12 school and also an orphanage. He is very excited for this privilege and will probably go for his senior year.  He is just finishing his freshman year.

He has had a difficult time with his studies, because he is clamoring to get out into the world, be creative and produce videos and forget wasting all this needless time on school.  “Pleeease Mom – seriously consider!”  Can anyone relate – or remember such feelings? 🙂

When I was pregnant with Caleb and it was too early to ascertain his sex, my soul mate, Ronda – from Seattle, called me and said the Lord had just given her a prophetic dream about this boy in my womb.  I immediately felt mad to hear it was even a boy.

Then she told me he was going to be a fireball, and would accomplish great things.  That he would be a lot like Paul, in the New Testament.  I got off the phone and got in the tub and remember crying, angry at God.  I did not want another boy. I wanted a calm, peaceful girl.  We already had enough testosterone in this house.

Savayvah Grace did not come until number 9, after 4 more boys.

By the end of that evening, the Lord had met me and ministered to my heart the absolute privilege of having this man for Him and co-creating with Him for His purposes.

Proverbs 19:21 tells us “Though we make our plans, His purposes will prevail.”  What a promise.  It used to make me mad. And now that I have lived and experienced this over and over, I can tell you – go ahead and make your plans, dream your dreams and when the Father’s plan is different than yours, learn to embrace it – Because He is Father God and His plans for us are GOOD – TO GIVE US A HOPE AND A FUTURE.”  (Jeremiah 29:11).

He always has the better plan.  And I could not be more grateful for this man He graced our lives with rather than giving me what I was wanting with all my heart at that time.

Caleb Abraham – you are the epitome of tender and strong.  You are creative and brilliant.  You are so fun, loving and such a man already.  We couldn’t be more proud of you!

P.S. Caleb left for Jamaica today, with 2 of his brothers, on a summer missions trip.  He still needs funds for the mission trip. (It’s not to late to give.)  Here is the information if you want to give to his mission trip. You may view here the video he produced that he sent out to friends in lieu of a “support letter”. (third one down)

Good Samaritan Fellowship
8177 S Harvard Ave #711
Tulsa, OK 74137

In fact, he is producing the video for the mission team as part of his trip payment. He negotiated that deal himself. 


1 Comment

  1. Debbie Van Risseghem said,

    July 9, 2011 at 6:33 pm

    Thankyou Toni, for sharing from your heart about your son! It touched my heart! From the first time I met Caleb I have been impressed with how much of a gentlemen he is! He is so very gifted by God! I love reading about your pregnancy with him and about his name. I am so glad that he is on a mission for God!

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