My Prayer Today ~

Father God, I Pray for You to BLESS all the mothers of the world, who thrive on making everything just right for their little ones. It makes them supremely happy to keep their babies clean and dry, warm and cozy, loved and fed. And Lord, I especially ask that you somehow BLESS all those little ones who do not have a mother who cares.


Would you say YES to Father God?

Last week as I was laying in bed, crying out to my Father to give us a break, some relief, some breathing room, some mercy (financially speaking), He said to me “What if that wasn’t my plan RIGHT NOW?  What if I wanted to keep you in this pressed place of depending on Me completely for every single need you have.

What if I turned the tapestry over and you saw the other side of these trials and what I was doing with them in your life?  What if you could see the beauty and My Glory that were being sewn into the fabric of your life? Would you say yes to My plan and allow me to continue my work, as I see best?”  

Tears streaming……”Of course, my precious, Faithful Father!”

For I learned a very long time ago, that to truly LIVE, as the Father created US to live, we may only say YES to whatever He ask.  My husband and I both have prayed, since before we even knew each other, and given the Father permission essentially “to  do whatever He wants to do in our lives, to make us the people He literally created us to be.”

Yes, that is a scary prayer and gives Father God permission to put you on a journey that most would never choose.  But to me, what would be scarier is realizing at the end of my life how I compromised any plan of the Father for my life, because I was afraid to Yes.

To be honest, the friends I have who have prayed these kind of prayers, really walk the hardest journeys I know.

For you to pray this type of prayer does not mean you will have a dozen kids. Though that is my greatest source of joy in this life.  Or walk through a decade of no income, having to live completely “by faith”.  Your journey will be unique – I can promise you that.

But you will know the intimacy of your Father, based on your need for Him, that most never seem to tap into.  There are well-springs of joy and life, peace and love that come when you are not afraid to live on a different plane than status quo.

I read a book last week that chronicled dozens of testimonies of people who have died and gone to Heaven temporarily, only to be sent back to finish up their lives “of unfinished business.”  A common revelation that they gained is that of an eternal perspective.  They returned understanding the futility of most of what we pursue and spend our life energies on here on earth.  They now understood that nothing mattered more than loving people and loving God with all of their hearts.

May we all seek to truly have the heart of the Father – toward our own lives. He can be trusted with our life.  In fact, may I dare to say…a life not yielded and wanting Him to control all – will hardly be worth living.  You will never regret saying YES to the Father, whatever that may be.  OUR COST ALWAYS PALES TO HIS REWARDS.

PS.  If you are new to my blog and do not really know about our “journey”, you would understand more by reading 2 old blog post.  The first one is “So What Does your Husband Do?”  posted in June of 09. The second one is called “Why…Oh Why?” and was posted in October of 2010.

Are Naps a Waste of Time? (New Insight)

By the time I had my third-born child, Samuel, I was well into regular naps. Sam loved to play and wrestle until we were both worn out and then we would fall asleep. He was so busy during his waking hours, that I cherished our sweet nap times together, with him until he was about 7.

From then on, I was hooked. I have continued to always nap with my little ones and make it a sweet and cozy time alone with our current baby. I still do this with my Mercy, who turns 3 1/2 this week.

I read something recently about a long-term study that had been done on people who nap regularly. They are healthier, over all, and live longer, richer lives. This is hugely true for me.

As a homeschooling mom, by the time nap time rolls around – I am so ready! I have facilitated a good, healthy breakfast and lunch. Every morning the house has been cleaned and picked up. I have bathed 2 little ones and often the dog. I have dealt with at least a dozen phone calls, and about 50 emails.

I have helped with or taught about 8 subjects in school. I have done about 3-5 loads of laundry. I have loved, instructed, preached, disciplined, refereed, and discussed a few weighty matters with my own children or those calling in for counsel.

So by 2:30-3:00 nothing in the world sounds better than a nap. 🙂

After I have filled Mercy’s little emotional cup, and she is falling asleep, I lay there and turn my attention toward my Heavenly Father. This has become the most sacred hour of my life and days. It is when I “be still and KNOW He is God!” He has begun to do the most beautiful thing with me in the last year or so, during my nap times, that I want to encourage you to seek.

I feel as if the Spirit of God comes to me now during about 75% of the days I lay down for a nap. He begins to minister to me whatever Truth He knows I most need that day. It is usually like one sentence. It begins to wrap around me, like a beautiful blanket. I feel the words rolling through my mind the entire time I lay there. I can feel it begin to permeate my cells and every fiber of my being. It is spiritual and physical at the same time. It really is a trip!

So that no matter how weary I am when I lay down, on any level, when I get up I am completely refreshed and encouraged – on every level. I am telling you – it is powerful and sweet. God then gives me all that I need to go on, and everything that I need to be for my world for the rest of the day.

A pervasive problem I see with all of America, even Christians, is this need to be busy ALL THE TIME. You can not maintain wholeness if you don’t take/make moments to be still and KNOW YOUR GOD!

Mine happens at nap time. If you can only lay down 3 days a week, for an hour or so, I guarantee you will see a difference. If you work full time – improvise. 🙂 You are used to doing that. But make this happen – on a somewhat regular basis. You WILL feel it improve the quality of your life.

Naps are no more a waste of time than eating a meal is. Both are necessary to keep us healthy and thriving. Rest and be still – I give you permission.

I am off for my nap…..

Four Fundamental Principles or Precepts that Will Set you Free and Cultivate Peace‏

I don’t know if you watch Hollywood movies, but if you do you have probably seen one that has a really great message in it that you like and want to promote, but you can’t because Hollywood has added some scenes and additional sub messages to the movie that you are not comfortable condoning or promoting to your friends. You want to recommend the good parts or message of the movie, but you are stuck.

Well that is how I feel with the latest book that I have read.

It is based on four fantastic Biblical principles to live by.  But the book has paradigms that I simply do not agree with as a whole.  Some “Matrix” type thinking – as if life is all a dream

So, I will spare you the extra peripheral and possibly controversial subject area and give you the nuggets. Because they are so Biblical and if you will incorporate them into the very fabric of who you are – I believe they have the innate power to set you free and cultivate more peace than you may have ever lived in before.

The First Principle is – “BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD”
Sounds simple enough, but is very powerful.  Impeccable means “without sin”.  To choose to always tell the truth and to speak it  “in love” will remove much hurt and clutter from our minds and our lives. “Your word is the gift that comes directly from God.  Through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything.  What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the spoken word.”

Your word is your most powerful tool as a human being.  With it, you have the absolute power to build or destroy.  All of your words either bring life or death.  And it is one of the great mysteries of being human – how so much good and evil can come forth from the same vessel through the lips and tongue.  When we choose words that are life and love, without sin and judgment or angst against any other person, we literally set our own souls free to soar.  Every time we speak ill of another person, we vex ourselves and cause dis-consonance within our own hearts.

So, in seeking to make our own words “without sin”, we only speak truth and what will benefit and bring life to others.  This alone is tremendously empowering!
Could I say something here about exaggeration? Everyone who has known me long, knows that as a Sanguine (personality type), I have thrown around the big words that embellish stories, like millions, etc. This is another area of weakness that my kids have come down so hard on me about. It is one of my natural weaknesses that the Lord is working in me to perfect His strength of telling only Truth! I now am so aware of getting all my numbers right, and that the real facts are fascinating enough on their own, and to embellish is to present lies.
This author went onto say “our word is like a spell, and humans use the spoken word like black magicians, thoughtlessly putting spells on each other.  Every human is a magician, and we can either put a spell on someone with our word or we can release someone from a spell. We cast spells all the time with our opinions spoken out into words.”

Father – help us! To be people who only speak the truth and with so much love that it sets people free. And then we too – are free indeed!

I have always told my children that the way people treat them is rarely, if ever, about them, but always reflects that person’s very own heart. Hurting people hurt people and beautiful people will treat you beautifully.  Ponder that a moment.  That way you never become prideful if people are treating you really well or become hurt when they are cruel to you.  I tell mine that the meaner anyone is to you, the more they need the love you have to give.

Actually, the Lord told me back in high school that the way people treated me reflected their hearts before Him, more than anything else.  If they love me, they usually love Him. If they hate me, they probably hate Him too.  And that if they hurt my heart, I must be more cognizant of the way their heart stands before God than what they are doing to me in a given situation.  That way, their heart becomes my bigger concern than my own hurt feelings. Make sense?

Third Principle is – “DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS” 
“The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are truth.  We could swear they are real.  We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending them emotional poison with our word.”  What complicates things and spreads the poison even more is to gossip about yours or somebody else’s assumptions.  

Remember assumptions are based upon the lowest level of knowledge. Often, if we would simply go to the “source” in a story and ask questions, if it is something that we care about or matters to us, then we could settle things promptly in our view, based upon truth from the source, and not heresy. But most people don’t feel safe in doing that.  If you don’t want to dig into the facts, then don’t make the assumptions and most certainly don’t go talking to others about them.

My son Samuel has taught me so much about this one. He has been gone for over 2 years, attending college in another state.  Often, I will get a story, involving him – from a sibling or someone else who is close.  I will call him up and maybe begin interrogating him, and he has taught me to never begin accusing until you ask for the other person’s side of the story first.  I am so aware of this now – how much we cannot make any assumptions until we have heard both sides of any story.   If you don’t care to hear both sides, than maybe you should refrain from giving opinions or certainly from making assumptions, and worst of all – gossiping.  

And do not assume anyone else should just know what you are thinking – especially your spouse.  That is not being fair.  You have the privilege of explaining your side and perspective any time you want or need to. And then give people the freedom to respond as they feel they should to you.

And the Fourth Principle is – “ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST!”
From day to day, hour-to-hour, season-to-season of your life – this can change.  But if you always do the best you can, with whatever you have at any given time, then you will feel good about yourself and your output and have the satisfaction of always knowing you have done your best.  To not deal with regret or guilt adds incredible energy to our lives and the very ability to perform everything better, including things in the future.  

Again, it empowers you to know you have given your best.  
When I was a camp counselor at a Christian youth camp as a teenager, I was given a plaque that I have saved till this day. It has become a foundation for my own life.  It quotes Colossians 3:23 and says, “Whatsoever you do, in word or deed, do all as unto the Lord and not unto man.”
You will never regret doing your best.  If it isn’t worth your best – don’t waste your time with it at all.
When you do your best you will enjoy what you do and this makes you feel happy and literally helps you love your life – no matter what you are doing.

“The first 3 principals will only work if you do your best.  Don’t expect that you will always be able to be impeccable with your word.  But you can do your best.  Don’t expect that you will never take anything personally, just do your best.  Don’t expect that you will never make another assumption, but you can certainly do your best.  By doing your best, the habits of misusing your word, taking things personally, and making assumptions will become weaker and less frequent with time.”

I encourage you to write these 4 principals on your bathroom mirror, or post them on your fridge.  Keep them in front of you, meditate on them as you go your way and you will begin to experience the freedom and peace Father God intended for you to walk in as a son or daughter of Him.