How many Children should We have

You know how “like-minds” gravitate toward one another, as do families with common interest.  In our circle of close friends, we have over a dozen friends with 7-14 kids.  But I do know that is not the “norm”.  In fact, neither was it in scripture.  There were some big families indeed, but often God gave families only one or two children.

I do not believe the important point here is to have a lot of children.  What matters most is that you say “Yes” to whatever Father God asks of you and your life.

Proverbs 19:21 tells us “Though we make our plans, God’s purposes will prevail.”  That means – make your plans – but be open to God’s plan.  When things happen differently than you plan, in any area of your life, try embracing what is happening and consider that it maybe God’s plan for you and it is bigger than yours, and it will make you bigger than yourself.

God’s ultimate desire for our hearts and lives – in this area – is the willingness to say “Yes”.

Remember – “You are not your own, but have been bought with a price.”  “Therefore, glorify God in your bodies.”
And it is not only in the area of children that the Lord is looking for willing hearts, it is your whole life.  Whatever He ask of you, whether it is more children: birthing, adopting or fostering, a career move, a ministry venue or anything else – Who are we to tell Almighty God “No”?

Our greatest fulfillment in life and our richest rewards will always come when we say “Yes” to Him – willingly submitting to whatever higher way He ask of us.

The Lord actually told me once that one of the greatest way He knows His children’s hearts and how much they trust Him is thru the area of children.

Do we believe “He is more than enough”?  And that He won’t give us more than we can handle?

Do we believe “He fully equips us for every good work He calls us to”?

Or do we limit Him according to all of our own resources -as we see things?  He also tells us “Whatever is not of faith is sin”.  Whatever we are doing in life should require faith and a dependence on Him to make it, or we are not living to the degree He has called us to.
Choose… to say “Yes” emphatically to our Lord – and you will rejoice over that choice for all of eternity and the fruit that it produces.



  1. Katie said,

    May 1, 2009 at 2:49 pm

    Hi Toni!
    I love your blog and I think this one was specifically for me. I even told Andy I was going to email you and ask you about some of the things you mentioned. I’ve been really struggling with weather or not I want to be done having kids. I love both my children and I don’t necessarily feel like I want any more but every time I say “I’m not having any more, this is the last” I feel a check in my Spirit. Now I know that maybe we’ll have more and maybe we won’t but I don’t want to limit God especially if He sees another baby in our future. He knows best and I’m willing to trust Him in that.
    Thank you so much for following the leading of the Holy Spirit and writing these blogs. They are truly anointed and I’ve told all my mommy friends!
    God bless,

    • themothersheart said,

      May 2, 2009 at 1:13 pm

      Thanks Katie, for your feedback and sharing the blog with friends. The Lord loves when we tell Him our honest thoughts and how we feel about the issue, of anything in our lives actually. But then He really loves when we conclude our thoughts with “Not my will, but yours be done!” bless you!

  2. Wylie said,

    April 4, 2011 at 9:06 pm

    I had to comment before I even finished the blog!!!! LOL I am commenting about the first sentence!! “You know how “like-minds” gravitate toward one another” That is just like I said, tonight! I have wanted to meet you for a long time! There is something about you that I am gravitating towards and I know it is JESUS! He has been so good to give me great friends!

  3. Wylie said,

    April 4, 2011 at 9:28 pm

    “The Lord actually told me once that one of the greatest way He knows His children’s hearts and how much they trust Him is thru the area of children.” This really hit home for me! I think one of my biggest fears is that something will happen to one of my children. Although I know God will carry me through and that everything will be alright, I still struggle with that fear.
    This makes me want to cry out to my Father,”Forgive me Lord for not trusting you. Forgive me, Lord for not believing you are enough. Move me Lord, change me. Move what is in my head into my heart, that I would trust you more. I trust you, LORD!”

    • themothersheart said,

      April 4, 2011 at 9:46 pm

      I lost a sister and 2 little girls in the womb, a best friend and my beloved daddy. I am so aware how fragile and precious all of life is. I literally thank the Lord every single day that HE has given me another day of privileged life with each and every one of my children. For every day is a gift and to be viewed as such. And then we never take them for granted, or regret that we didn’t make the most of every day we had with our children and husbands.

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